Breaking Down What It Truly Means to Love and 5 Crystals that Will Help to Improve Your Love Life

November 27, 2019

“Our emotions have a vibratory frequency to them. There are only two emotions that humankind experiences, fear and love. All other emotions branch either directly or indirectly from these two emotions. Fear has a long and slow frequency vibration to it, while love has a rapid and high frequency.”

-Eyrkah Badu


Although falling in love is an amazing feeling, L O V E is about so much more than just romance. It’s about choosing compassion instead of judgement, it’s about doing the right thing even when it’s hard. A lot of the time love is about living in alignment with your highest self and acting from a place of integrity. As the old adage says, you can’t love anyone if you don’t love yourself first!

If you are looking for a deep connection, or a soul mate, begin with self-love and you will always be guided to your vibratory match. Meaning that you will fall for someone who loves themselves too! This will make your relationship uncomplicated and genuine, providing you with the stability and foundations to last a lifetime together.


When we don’t do the work and learn to love ourselves authentically, our insecurities skyrocket and we become our own worst enemy, acting from a place of fear. The following are some statements that you might think or repeat to yourself when your thoughts are stemming from a place of fear:

  • I am not good, beautiful, smart, funny, talented, strong, handsome, rich ENOUGH.
  • Why does he/she always get what they want, it’s not fair. I wish I could be more like so and so.
  • Why would anyone want to love me? I will never find love, because I don’t deserve to be loved.

You get the picture. These are all statements and thoughts that come from a lack mindset. Even if you don’t consciously think these types of thoughts, when you dig deeper and breakdown why you behave in certain ways you may realize that there are unconscious motivations guiding your behaviour, and some of them may cause you to be acting from a place of fear.

But don’t worry, this happens to everyone and the most important thing is to recognize it when it’s happening and replace it with love, understanding, and compassion for yourself. When you choose to be kinder to yourself, and acknowledge your immeasurable value and worth, you will stop comparing yourself to others, and be happy with what you have and who you are. That’s not to say that you should never strive to be better or set goals for improvement, the idea is that you aren’t so hard on yourself in the meantime, acknowledging where you could use some growth and being proud of yourself for the little leaps along the way.


Using crystal healing to attract love into your life is a very powerful way to let the universe know that you are ready to embark on a journey of true love. Whether it be to build self-love or to find the love of your life – or BOTH because they are not mutually exclusive, crystals are an amazing resource to help you manifest love.

There are certain crystals that possess beautiful vibrations and properties for welcoming in and boosting love in your life. In order for this to work it is best to set a specific intention and program your crystal with that intention in mind. If you can keep up a practice of actively holding your crystal and reciting a mantra, poem, or affirmation that you wrote based around your specific intention every day for a period of time, this will yield the best results. Don’t over complicate it, just speak from your heart and focus on what you want rather than what you don’t have.

Expect miracles and they will happen, believe and receive.


Rose Quartz

Rose quartz is amazing for all types of love including romantic, familial, platonic, as well as self-love. It emanates the loveliest gentle vibrations to nurture you towards unconditional love for yourself and others.

Use rose quartz to:

  • Soothe difficult relationships and help each person involved to consider the other persons point of view
  • Open your heart chakra and balance your abilities to give and receive love
  • Dissipate jealousy, envy, and the need to compare yourself to others
  • Encourage self-acceptance and forgiveness

 Shop rose quartz here.


Rhodonite is the perfect crystal to use for self-love. Crystal healing self-love practices with rhodonite will help you to balance and ground, providing you with emotional support throughout your day.

Use rhodonite to:

  • Relieve stress and take the edge off of living with trauma
  • Help you feel supported, allowing you to act from a place of love
  • Remove attachments and scars from your past, gently encouraging you to move forward
  • Build your self-esteem and release self-destructive thoughts and behaviours

Shop rhodonite here.


Rhodochrosite is a potent stone to work with for welcoming more love into your life. This crystal will not only bring in more love, but a richer quality of all types of love from self-love to love in your relationships.

Use rhodochrosite to:

  • Feel worthy of receiving love from others
  • Boost confidence and trust in your relationships
  • Dissipate feelings of abandonment
  • Heal your inner child from any forms of abuse

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Work with Garnet to open up opportunities to fall in love and build a passionate and deep relationship with your partner.

Use Garnet to:

  • Heal emotional imbalances and maintain a sense of stability
  • Find hope and release feeling stuck in the same repetitive cycle
  • Uplift your attitude towards love, helping you to anticipate its arrival
  • Invite in seduction, romance, and passion

 Shop Garnet here.

Angel Aura Quartz

Use angel aura quartz stones to enhance universal and divine love, or to communicate with the divine to ask for help in matters of love. Angel Aura gemstones have their own unique aura coating that is achieved through bonding a natural quartz stone with platinum and titanium, amplifying the gemstones vibration.

Use Angel Aura Quartz to:

  • Open yourself up to a whole new way of life and connect to higher energies asking them for help in finding true love
  • To balance and clear your chakras, removing energy blockages that might be preventing you from giving or receiving love
  • Uplift your mood and bring you peace
  • Improve communication in relationships

 Shop Angel Aura Quartz here.

Using any of these crystals will help you to manifest and nurture love in your life. Remember to infuse your crystal with your specific intentions and requests, and to love yourself first!